I like direct questions and direct answers.
"What do you want to do for dinner?"
Direct answers - "I don't know." or "let's grill chicken."
Indirect answer - "Well we had chicken the other night and I didn't really like it and I don't want to do pizza again cause we had it for lunch at work today....."
"What time is it?"
Direct answers - "5:15pm" or "It's time to go!"
Indirect answer - "What do you mean what time is it? For what?"
"Where are you?"
Direct answers - "About half an hour from home." or "I just passed the toll booth."
Indirect answer - "I would be almost home already except there was this accident on the expressway...."
It's communication style differences I guess. I like to get the What, When, Where, Why, Who, and How first before adding to the subject. People generally like to get to those things first as it quickly sets a scenario/ picture/ or mind set of what is being asked/discussed/shared. Anything beyond the facts just adds layers.
There's nothing wrong with adding layers, whether it is interesting or not, just as long as the core of the information is addressed first.
This has been a public service announcement. Thank you.
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
The Dare
Man, I have GOT to do something about eating better. I always mean well and get salad bags and stuff to take for lunch the next day, but I never manage to get them to the office. Because I am in a hurry, I always end up packing a frozen dinner/lunch thing. It's horrible.
And I never get enough water in the day. I prefer coffee, Coke, or Diet Coke with a lime. And I never work out. I dream about getting up earlier in the morning or going out after I put Jack to bed to get at least a 30 minute walk, but that never happens.
I barely get up in time to put powder on my face! And after Jack’s been put to bed, I’m pooped and don’t want to do another thing, or have other things I need to take care of for the next day (too bad one of the ‘next day’ item is not putting together a salad for lunch at the office).
Are there just not enough hours in the day to get all I want to do done? Or am I just not DOING them?
Someone once told me that as far as working out goes, if you have the mindset that your workout time is an option, it’ll never get done; it has to become a ‘must’. You don’t have a choice; you don’t base the decision to work out on how you ‘feel’ that day.
I’VE NEVER HAD THE GUTS TO DO THIS.
I am curious though…the kind of curiosity a mad scientist would have looking at some plutonium and nitrogen. What IF I challenged myself to do as I want, and not do as I feel? What if I became militant about keeping to a routine and/or schedule for MYSELF too?
How would I change? And how quickly would that change take place? Would it change who I am?
There are a handful of things I’ve changed for the better in my life, marriage and Jack are the result of some of these changes. But the hardest for me to learn/fix was to manage my money better after my father passed away, and to quit smoking before I got pregnant.
COULD I take on the challenge of getting my butt out there every day? I read it takes at least 21-23 to kick a habit or obtain one.
I’ll have to engineer a ‘habit’ to get myself out there for 30 minutes once a day.
And I never get enough water in the day. I prefer coffee, Coke, or Diet Coke with a lime. And I never work out. I dream about getting up earlier in the morning or going out after I put Jack to bed to get at least a 30 minute walk, but that never happens.
I barely get up in time to put powder on my face! And after Jack’s been put to bed, I’m pooped and don’t want to do another thing, or have other things I need to take care of for the next day (too bad one of the ‘next day’ item is not putting together a salad for lunch at the office).
Are there just not enough hours in the day to get all I want to do done? Or am I just not DOING them?
Someone once told me that as far as working out goes, if you have the mindset that your workout time is an option, it’ll never get done; it has to become a ‘must’. You don’t have a choice; you don’t base the decision to work out on how you ‘feel’ that day.
I’VE NEVER HAD THE GUTS TO DO THIS.
I am curious though…the kind of curiosity a mad scientist would have looking at some plutonium and nitrogen. What IF I challenged myself to do as I want, and not do as I feel? What if I became militant about keeping to a routine and/or schedule for MYSELF too?
How would I change? And how quickly would that change take place? Would it change who I am?
There are a handful of things I’ve changed for the better in my life, marriage and Jack are the result of some of these changes. But the hardest for me to learn/fix was to manage my money better after my father passed away, and to quit smoking before I got pregnant.
COULD I take on the challenge of getting my butt out there every day? I read it takes at least 21-23 to kick a habit or obtain one.
I’ll have to engineer a ‘habit’ to get myself out there for 30 minutes once a day.
Friday, March 16, 2007
Wet Purse
So Jack peed on his socks while he was getting weighed yesterday at thedoctor's office...and I hadn't brought the diaper bag with me from the car,so I took off his socks and put them in the front pocket of my purse.
This morning while in my car, I found my glasses sitting on top of the dashand went to put them in the front pocket of my purse (cause I couldn't findthe eyeglass case I'd left in the car). I'd totally forgotten the pee peesocks were still in there and shoved my glasses in.
I got to work and pulled out my glasses and realized what I'd done. I pulledout the socks too. They were still wet. They are now in a plastic bag, backin my purse - the main compartment. Sigh. But I kind of liked seeing a'Jack' item that had followed me to work today. It's a good day.
This morning while in my car, I found my glasses sitting on top of the dashand went to put them in the front pocket of my purse (cause I couldn't findthe eyeglass case I'd left in the car). I'd totally forgotten the pee peesocks were still in there and shoved my glasses in.
I got to work and pulled out my glasses and realized what I'd done. I pulledout the socks too. They were still wet. They are now in a plastic bag, backin my purse - the main compartment. Sigh. But I kind of liked seeing a'Jack' item that had followed me to work today. It's a good day.
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Thoughts
First, my apologies for not having blogged in quite a while.
I have been happily busy trying to spend as much time as I can with my son, Jack.
He makes the daily grind of the work place worth it. I was telling a friend of mine yesterday how I wished I had Jack sooner. He is too much fun! He's awesome. I cannot remember what life was like without Jack.
I can no longer hold out to fit back into my pre-pregnancy clothes. I was trying to stave off buying clothes I'd fit into now in my bigger state. However, I have gotten sick of rotating the same 3-4 shirts and 2 jeans throughout the week. I need to buy clothes without spending an arm and a leg, and also to find things that will actually fit me without going to the maternity section.
I admit it freely, I am still wearing maternity jeans. Why? They are super comfortable! And I am still super fat in the middle. Jack was a big kid! Give me a break...I'm gonna look big in the middle for a little bit longer, okay?
The above being said, I also need to actively do something to drop the pounds. I am currently on SlimFast...I'll let you know how that goes. I've been on it for a week now and have not dropped a single pound...probably cause I have a dessert every night after dinner at home (vanilla icecream and Oreo cookies). I should probably stop that. Also, I have not been working out. I have not even done so much as 30 minutes of walking. So I'll just stop wondering why I haven't lost a single pound now.
My J.Crew card is paid off. I want to buy!!!!!!!!! Damn the internet!
I have been happily busy trying to spend as much time as I can with my son, Jack.
He makes the daily grind of the work place worth it. I was telling a friend of mine yesterday how I wished I had Jack sooner. He is too much fun! He's awesome. I cannot remember what life was like without Jack.
I can no longer hold out to fit back into my pre-pregnancy clothes. I was trying to stave off buying clothes I'd fit into now in my bigger state. However, I have gotten sick of rotating the same 3-4 shirts and 2 jeans throughout the week. I need to buy clothes without spending an arm and a leg, and also to find things that will actually fit me without going to the maternity section.
I admit it freely, I am still wearing maternity jeans. Why? They are super comfortable! And I am still super fat in the middle. Jack was a big kid! Give me a break...I'm gonna look big in the middle for a little bit longer, okay?
The above being said, I also need to actively do something to drop the pounds. I am currently on SlimFast...I'll let you know how that goes. I've been on it for a week now and have not dropped a single pound...probably cause I have a dessert every night after dinner at home (vanilla icecream and Oreo cookies). I should probably stop that. Also, I have not been working out. I have not even done so much as 30 minutes of walking. So I'll just stop wondering why I haven't lost a single pound now.
My J.Crew card is paid off. I want to buy!!!!!!!!! Damn the internet!
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